Difference vs Comparison.

No two people are identical, difference between humans is endemic.

However Focusing on difference stimulates comparison and judgment.

Comparison and judgment result in rejection.

But we need to compare don’t we? So we can learn and grow? Is there a way I can compare differences without rejecting the person to whom I am comparing?

What if I interpreted every person as trying their best?

That would allow me to compare while accepting, would it not. And would you not prefer others to interpret your behavior in the best way.

Self worth is not created, it is discovered.


What if I refused to punish anyone for their behavior?


What would happen?

I would lose the illusion of control.
I would reconsider why I decided myself into thinking that punishment had any benefits.

It does not.

You can teach, lead, inspire, create using love without punishment.

That is what the great leaders taught and demonstrated. Compassion without “power over”.

It does not mean I am weak.
It does not mean I ignore boundaries, nor does it stop the application of immediate defense.

But it does mean I will not participate in any violence, or violation, or war, or put downs, or isolation of the individual.

Such actions are about punishment, revenge, fear of repetition of abuse, etc.