Positive Relationship Attitudes

Part 4 of 4 in the series Relationships

There are basic emotional needs or attitudes that are essential to creating a truly loving and emotionally supportive relationship:
Some common ones are investigated here. Have a look at these and compare them to the most important relationship that you are having issues with.
Then when you have done that, select the one that you feel you need to most attend to today, or define your own, in the IQS at the bottom.
All of these attitudes are present to various degrees when a person feels emotionally supported. Positive sentiments like fulfillment, peace, happiness, gratitude, satisfaction, excitement, and confidence are automatically generated when we are able to fulfill our primary emotional needs.
  1. Love. Love is a connection, uniting, sharing, or joining attitude. Without judgment or evaluation it says, ‘We may be different but we are also alike. I see myself in you and I see you in myself.” On a mental level, love is expressed through understanding. Acknowledging a sense of relatedness, it says, “I relate to you in this similar way.” On an emotional level, love is expressed through empathy. lt acknowledges a relatedness of feeling. It says, “I relate to your feelings; I have had similar feelings.” On a physical level, love is expressed through touch.
  2. Caring. A caring attitude acknowledges one’s felt responsibility to respond to the needs of another. To care is to show deep interest or heartfelt concern for another’s well-being. When we care about someone, it is a sign that we are affected by their well-being or lack of it. The more one cares, the more one is naturally motivated to fulfill or support others. Caring is also an acknowledgment of that which is important to a person. Caring for a person validates that he or she is special.
  3. Understanding. An understanding attitude validates the meaning of a statement, feeling, or situation. It does not presume to know all the answers already. An understanding attitude starts from not knowing, gathers meaning from what is heard, and moves toward validating what is being communicated. Through understanding we are able to see the world through another person’s eyes. An understanding attitude says, “Before I judge you, I will take off my shoes and walk in yours for a while.”
  4. Respect. A respectful attitude acknowledges another person’s rights, wishes, and needs. It yields to another’a wishes and needs, not out of fear, but through acknowledging their validity. Respect  acknowledges the value and importance of who a person is, as well as their needs. Respect is the attitude that motivates one to truly serve another because he or she deserves it.
  5. Appreciation. An appreciative attitude acknowledges the value of another’s efforts or behavior. It Recognizes that the expression of another person’s being or behavior has enriched the well-being of the appreciator. Appreciation is the natural reaction to being supported. Appreciation inspires us to give back to others with a feeling of fullness and joy. Appreciation acknowledges that we have benefited from the gift offered to us.
  6. Acceptance. An accepting attitude acknowledges that another’s being or behavior is received willingly. It does not reject, but rather affirms that the other person is being favorably received. Indeed, acceptance is accompanied by a sense of gratitude for what we have received. It is not a passive, overlooking, or slightly disapproving attitude. To accept a person means to validate that they are enough for you. It does not mean that you think they could not improve; it indicates that you are not trying to improve them. Acceptance is the attitude that forgives another’s mistakes.
  7. Trust. A trusting attitude acknowledges the positive qualities of another’s character, such as honesty, integrity, reliability, justice, and sincerity. When trust is absent, people commonly jump to negative and wrong conclusions regarding a person’s intent. Trust gives every offense the benefit of the doubt, positing that there must be some good explanation for why it happened. Trust grows in a relationship when each partner recognizes that the other never intends to hurt. To approach one’s partner with trust is to believe that they are able and willing to support.

 

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