‘Selfish’ is a word which can be interpreted in two opposite ways, Entitlement—the attitude that people owe you something more, and not being thankful for what you already have (used as a pejorative) e.g. “You are just selfish and uncaring”
OR Self-caring – positive compassion and love for yourself which is an essential prerequisite to being able to give love.
The dictionary defines selfish as ‘Lacking consideration for others; concerned chiefly with one’s own personal profit or pleasure. Devoted to or caring only for oneself.’
Self-ish has two parts in the word, and the ‘ish’ suffix means ‘holding some of the characteristics of’
Using this understanding selfish always defines ourselves, for I am 100% self-ish as I hold all the characteristics of myself
The word can and often is used as a weapon to control, by inferring that the self is responsible for another, or typically a group of others, like partner, family, club, nation.
The primary differentiation is in the intent of use.
If the intent behind use of the word ‘selfish’ is placing personal health above other external demands, that is a virtue.
However, where the word is used to define an egoic superiority, or ones not contributing fairly to society because of a sense of entitlement, such an attitude is diminishing to both one’s spirit and to those with whom you interact.
“In all its manifestations, a preoccupation with the self (entitlement) can cause us to forget our benefits and our benefactors or to feel that we are owed things from others and therefore have no reason to feel thankful. Counting blessings will be ineffective because grievances will always outnumber gifts.
The antidote to entitlement, is to see that we did not create ourselves—we were created, if not by evolution, then by God; or if not by God, then by our parents. Likewise, we are never truly self-sufficient.”
Forgiveness is where a victim changes their feelings and attitude regarding an offense and lets go of negative emotions. Forgiveness is different from condoning , excusing , forgetting , pardoning, or reconciliation.
However in the Christian religion ‘forgiveness’ is commonly used in the sense of pardoning a perpetrator/sinner.
An unspecified belief in an undetermined transcendent force.
Ietsism is a Dutch term for a range of beliefs held by people who, on believe that “there must be something undefined beyond the material and that which can be known or can be proven”, but on the other hand do not necessarily accept or subscribe to the established belief system, theology or view of the nature of a God offered by any particular religion.
The name derives from the Dutch equivalent of the question: “Do you believe in the conventional ‘Christian’ God?”, a typical ietsist answer being “No, but there must be something”, “something” being iets in Dutch.
Where a definition of the moment of death is required, doctors and coroners usually turn to “brain death” or “biological death” to define a person as being dead; people are considered dead when the electrical activity in their brain ceases.
In some cultures, death is seen more as a process of transformation, as consciousness leaving the body to reside in a different dimension, outside of time. This is consistent with emerging scientific views on the relationship of time, matter and energy. (see E=MC2)