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Proper esteem or regard for the dignity of oneself.

Self-respect is about having a sense of honor and dignity about yourself, your choices, and your life. Having respect for yourself is vital in maintaining a positive self-image by allowing yourself to feel confident in who you are and content with the person you are becoming.

To retain your self-respect, it is better to displease the people by doing what you know is right, than to temporarily please them by doing what you know is wrong.

William J. H. Boetcker

When we think of the positive emotional energy that exists in our relationships, what we’re really referring to is our self-esteem.
 Every relationship “system” has a degree and quality of self-esteem to it, both contributed by individuals and as a collective whole. There are families with high self-esteem and low self-esteem, corporations with high self-esteem (we might call it morale) and low self-esteem, and married couples who, combined, have high self-esteem or low self-esteem. These levels of self-esteem correspond to the levels of positive human emotional energy present.
In physics, there are two general kinds of energy: potential energy stored in the stationary, you might even say soothing or calm form (such as petroleum lubricant oil), and kinetic energy that is actively spent to do work (like gasoline). In Paul’s psychological model, the positive emotional energy metaphorically stored in the mammalian brain also takes two forms: nurturing or motherly or emotional energy, which is like the oil of the mind, and action-prone (or fatherly) emotional energy, which is like the gasoline of the mind.
In easy everyday terms, dividing self-esteem into two parts simply means that:

Self-esteem  = Well-being (nurturing energy + confidence, the energy of action, risk taking, change and resistance to loss) 

The E = mC2 of psychology: Self-esteem : Well-being + Confidence. You will be able to harness the power of friendship via the self-esteem of your character, to guarantee a destiny of happiness and success.
Paul dobransky MD
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