Authenticity – Being Consistent with who I am

Part 6 of 8 in the series Who am I?


Questions to reflect on.


1 What does your soul say about being authentic, as you understand it?

2 In what ways are you in tune with this soul-advice?

3 How can you take one step forward towards being consistent between action, thought and soul?

4 In what ways do you find it difficult to practice kindness to your own self?

E.g. do you find your head voice trying to criticize what your soul would be kind about?

Try the following Interactive Question Survey:

Honesty with self-examination

Any process of authenticity involves awareness of self, as Socrates famously said “The unexamined life is not worth living”.

For Socrates the examined life was the attainment of wisdom and intellectual humility.

For Seneca the examined life was to have a meaningful goal and strive to perfect one’s character.

Anyone with a vocation hears the voice of the inner man: he is called.”— C.G. Jung

The salvation of this human world lies nowhere else than in the human heart, in the human power to reflect, in human meekness and in human responsibility. Without a global revolution in the sphere of human consciousness, nothing will change for the better…and the catastrophe toward which this world is headed—be it ecological, social, demographic or a general breakdown of civilization—will be unavoidable. – Vaclav Havel

The power for authentic leadership, Havel tells us, is found not in external arrangements but in the human heart. Authentic leaders in every setting—from families to nation-states—aim at liberating the heart, their own and others, so that its powers can liberate the world. – Parker Palmer


Gandhi said: Compassion is a muscle that gets stronger with use” and  “Be the change you wish to see in the world”

“The most basic and powerful way to connect to another person is to listen. Just listen. Perhaps the most important thing we ever give each other is our attention… A loving silence often has far more power to heal and to connect than the most well-intentioned words.” Rachel Naomi Remen

The Challenge of Authenticity

Authenticity is challenging.
When I am authentic with somebody
I am exposing a deep vulnerability.

I can’t be authentic without showing
the Yin and the Yang of who I am.

If I leave out either
I am hiding myself.

Therefore it seems the degree of my authenticity
is the degree to which I’m willing to expose
both the darkness and the light of my being.

That’s why it’s a challenge.
That’s why authenticity is a warrior’s path.

And yet when I do achieve a deeper level
of authenticity and vulnerability with someone,
while it may be scary, it is also deeply fulfilling.
Almost like nothing else can be fulfilling.

Perhaps this is because these are moments
when I’m truly introduced to myself.
I see myself face to face. 
And this gives me the opportunity
to really love myself.

Clearly there are a lot of benefits
to having the courage to be authentic.
I do my best to seek out deeper levels
of authenticity than I am presently able to access.

The thing is though, the danger of being taken
advantage of is very real,
because I have genuinely been hurt in the past
for being vulnerable.
I have been betrayed.

The sting of those experiences is still with me
and makes me hesitate, makes me protect myself.
This is why authenticity is a process
and not simply a one-time decision or experience.

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